"You either have the things you want or the reasons why you don't."
Boy. It's been a while since my last post. I shouldn't have left you all hanging like that, but I was going through some thanggggs and had to get myself straightened out. For those of you who didn't know, I got a breast reduction a few weeks ago! So it's been about a month since I've posted and about a month since the surgery. Now that I'm gaining strength, I just couldn't wait to get back into the groove of things and show you what I've been working with!
I turned 23 last week and with the age came lots of thought. I want to make sure that every girl who ever questions their beauty because of their size gets the chance to be uplifted by Flaws of Couture. While I was out for surgery, I ended up speaking to a lot of girls who say that they would never wear a dress because they don't feel they have the right to be in one. When I asked them why they felt that way, many of them would mention how other people felt about how they looked. I can't say this more...What you wear will never please everyone. And once you realize that some people will love it and some people will hate it...you can move on and dress for YOU. Dress to make YOU happy. No one else. So this dress is for YOU. Not only a dress...but a DOUBLE SPLIT dress from Affordable Diva Plus! I found this amazing site through my Instagram (@sashagai). I ordered and I couldn't have been more impressed with the prices. I will NEVER act as if I don't appreciate a good deal. So for the ladies who have been asking me about good quality reasonably priced clothing; here you are. This is by far my favourite dress to date. Favourite colour too! My closet thanks Affordable Diva Plus for this addition...greatly. You guys will love it. Enjoy!
I will definitely be sharing the details of the breast reduction with those of you who have been dying to know. Give me some time to sort it all out for you. Thanks for sticking with me guys!
You da best!
Special thanks goes out to Essence Magazine for featuring me on their site last week! I am feeling so blessed! There are no words to describe how amazing this is! No words at all.
Thank you! <3
So, I decided to let my 13 year old sister (who takes all of my photos by the way) dress me this time around. She's a little fashionista herself, so I gave her the chance to call THIS ONE her own. Why not? When I got this dress from Forever 21 PLUS, I had no specific intentions for it. I just thought of it as a cute summer barbecue/picnic dress. Clearly, Dahlia had something else in mind for it. I'm actually surprised at her combination. Impressed actually.
There's a huge craze going on with the sneaker wedges I see! I gave them a try and MANNN are they comfy. I definitely understand why everyone loves these. I can't wait to throw them on with a pair of jeans! You'd never guess where I got my trial pair from! Wait for it.....
Yup, that's where I got them. I figured, if I wanna try something this trendy, I might as well penny-pinch. Who knows if this will be something I want to wear next year. So simple advice for you ladies this time around: If you want to try super "trendy" looks that may not be around for a substantial amount of time...find a cheaper way to experiment! The funny thing about "fads" are that they may be out of style by next year. And I don't know about you, but I don't want to spend $250.00 for a pair of sneaker wedges that are going to be a "fashion faux pas" by January. Go for a cheaper pair and work it out! Just my opinion! This is not to say that you should shop for cheap clothes as a full figured woman. That doesn't always work well for us. I truly believe in quality and spending the money to get it. But like I said, for "trendy things", think twice and weight your options!
Let me know what you think so I can tell Dahlia!
I'm super lax and satisfied with this look. On my way out on the town and this is what my hands came up with. I think almost anyone can spice up a bad hair day with a skully (hat). I think the cool thing about this look is that its so masculine yet so girly with the pop of colour on the lips. Makes you feel BADDD, but so sexy all in the same breath! This colour is so similar to the Nicki Minaj lip glass from Mac, but it's actually "Pink Parfait" by LA Colors! Talk about the cheap route! There are ways around the dolls, ladies! There are WAYS.
My denim jacket and lace peplum top are both from no other than the fabulous, Addition Elle. While the leggings were a SUPERB find from Winners. I got these shoes from Payless YEARS ago...and look who's back out to play? Don't you just love how trends just come right back around? I'm not one to be afraid of colour but I'm also not one to run away from black! I think Kim Kardashian and Kanye have definitely rubbed off their monochrome habits on the WHOLE fashion industry. I'm definitely not afraid of piggy-backing on that trend!
I mean, why not? It's sharp and it's HOT.
My word of advice, it's okay flourish in your androgynous side as plus size women.
As long as you DO IT WELL.
When I found out that Luxe Vain Boutique was sending some pieces our way, I just knew I had to have this dress. It immediately spoke royalty and finesse to me. Between the bold red and the sexy mesh cut outs, I knew I had to give it a try. What I love about online boutiques like Luxe Vain is that they give a certain type of women the option to dress the way she dreams of. I'm sure it's not ALL of us that feel super riskayyy, and thats cool. But, lets just say "some of us" want to show it off. We're okay in our skin and thats an awesome message to embrace.
I've been waiting for the weather to change in order to do this outfit justice, but I just couldn't hold it any longer. Toronto has been up and down with the climate lately, so I had to just go for it! I want to say thank you to Luxe Vain for this beautiful gown. Ladies, it you're looking for a place to get unique, sexy and trendy pieces for those nights you want to remember, shop Luxe Vain Boutique!
They DO NOT disappoint.
Red Dress: Courtesy of Luxe Vain Boutique.
I've gotten a LOT of amazing feedback since my last post. Alongside that, I've gotten some questions about whether or not I felt that my dress was too short for the "plus size girl" to wear ..etc etc. I'll say this. I knew the dress was going to be short BEFORE I got it. So, with that being said, I had every intention of wearing it as the short dress it was. I do understand that a lot of people are not comfortable with wearing short dresses. I am completely okay with that, BUT with all due respect....I am not one of those people. I don't think there would be a point of me doing what I do if I was going to cater to insecurities that big girls have. I am not ashamed of my legs nor am I ashamed of my body and I don't think you should be either. There was a point in time when I would wear jeans in the hottest of summers, all because I didn't want to show my legs. And at that point I was only a size 10. I wear whatever I want and share it with you because at one point, my insecurities wouldn't allow me to. So now that I've rid myself of that garbage, I will wear every and ANYTHING that makes me feel good. And you should too. Think about the root of the problem. When I realized that my dressing choices were completely geared to what I thought my skinnier counterparts would think of me...I CUT THAT ISH OUTTT. I've got one life to live and ONE chance to be "ME"; so bring onnnn the minis!
I was inspired by the Taylor Swift last week (believe it or not). I was reminded that I am young and that I should be enjoying every moment of my life! In other words, "Why so serious?!" I've included the music video at the very end of this post! I guess I can relate because I too, am 22!
When I saw this dress on ASOS, I snatched it up quickly. I honestly don't know what exactly I loved about it, but what I do know is that its mine, ALL MINE! I wanted to wait until it got a little warmer to wear it so I could show some leg, but obviously I couldn't wait. So I paired it with my Addition Elle stockings and orange Torrid heels. I've already got a LOT of people asking me about my hair on INSTAGRAM (insta name: sashagai). So if you live in the Greater Toronto Area and want to have you're hair done by my stylist, shoot me an email!
How do you like the outfit?